Ignore her completely

Mel is still confusing the hell out of me.

She is sending the occasional text message asking innocuous questions, like "How's the packing going?", expecting a nice friendly reply from the ex-boyfriend who is now her mate. Except we are not friends. I have made that abundantly clear on more than one occasion, but she insists on forgetting about that a couple of days later and contacting me again. After calling me a very very sad person and a wanker on Saturday, on Monday she invited me to hers for dinner. With Gareth. As mates. Unbelievable!!

L has advised me to just ignore her. I tried that on Saturday, but just got another note 90 minutes later complaining of the way I was treating her!! I am intensely curious as to how she really feels. She insists she does not want me as a boyfriend, so why does she want so much to be friends? Or does she really, secretly, want something more and is too proud to admit it? Either way, I can't understand the inconsistent behaviour and I don't need her brand of friendship either.

I suppose L is right - the more I read Mel's texts the more upset I feel. Ignoring her completely and consistently is the only way to get the message across.

Bye, Mel - it was nice for the first couple of weeks.